Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Eat, Pray, Love

Has anybody out there seen the previews for this new movie with Julia Roberts?  Better still, has anyone actually read the book?  One of my doctors recommended it to me a few weeks ago, and I thought it strange.  I mean, I don't have a life-threatening illness or anything, so I didn't understand why she would suggest a book with pray in the title.  Until now.

The Nile River, from the Cairo Tower.  Downtown Cairo.

During the month of June, I went to Egypt for three weeks with a group of students and other alumni from my alma mater.  I was supposed to be finding a new teaching job during that time frame, going to a reunion picnic with former classmates at my other alma mater (grad school) to make contacts, and writing my thesis in my current endeavors (grad school again - different master's program, but worthwhile if you teach in Kentucky and want a pay raise!).  Instead, I had this opportunity come across my plate and I snatched it.  I'll probably never go to Egypt again, and I may not even get the chance.

So where am I going with this?  Well, a bit of marketing went a long way for me - as I was clicking to see what Chef Eric Ripert said about last week's challenge on Top Chef (yes, we're foodies in this household), I got to watch the trailer for Eat, Pray, Love first.  And suddenly I got it.

Various forms of transportation on the Giza Plateau.

Julia Roberts' character went on a trip of a lifetime, because this was her life, and she was going for it.  I remember saying almost the same words, and I knew exactly what her character felt.  I've been there.  But it's both more complex and more rudimentary at the same time.  Since I haven't read the book - no time for fiction this summer! - I can't say what spurs her to take such drastic action as booking a trip to parts unknown.  But I know that feeling of letting your life pass you by.

The complexity?  We somehow get the notion that life doesn't really start for us until we're on our own, finished with school, living in our own digs, signing up for our own utilities, etc.  And that's just not true.  So society's rules teach us one thing, but we have to learn to ignore them:  just because we don't have that all-important career or that "grown-up" car, we're still living our lives.  There are no do-overs, and that's where the rudimentary part comes in.  You don't have to get it perfect the first time around, but you do need to be present, because you will never be here again.  You only get one shot at life, so better to make it count than worry about the things that don't matter.

One of the ancient Wonders of the World, in all its glory.
And now that I've gotten that all-important wisdom down onto the page, perhaps I will get down to business and get busy living my life.  Today's all-important task, historical research, definitely demands that I be present in what I'm doing!

2 comments:

Gail said...

I'm learning to live by this rule "live life for today because you never know what tomorrow may bring". Although it is tough sometimes with my Type A personality, it also helps put things into perspective.

Shelley Roberts said...

Funny-I just bought this book TODAY to read on my trip to Denver (as if flying with a 2-year old actually allows time for reading anything-TV Guide may have been a better choice).

However, Tammy recommended it to me a couple of years ago and it's been on my to-read list ever since.

I learned about 'being present' after I had Beth. It is definitely a learned skill. Turning off that 'to-do' ticker in my head didn't allow me to be fully present during my time with Beth. I feel like that is so restricted anyway, I needed to do something to allow me to be fully present when we're together both for her and for me. It wasn't hard necessarily, but it took practice. And still does sometimes.

We only have one shot at this life. Might as well make the most of it and stop worrying about things we have no control over (and some things we do-like dirty floors and unloading the dishwasher).